It's None of Your Business If I Had An Abortion!

Women Wake Up and Claim Your Rights to Your Own Body!

First of all, I’d like to position myself.

I was born a woman and still am a woman.

I’m sixty-one years old, long on the other side of menopause.

I had my tubes tied in my early thirties.

I planned for and gave birth to two males who are now in their thirties.

I’ve never had an ectopic pregnancy despite using an IUD, although I had a scare once that I might have one, but then I didn’t.

I don’t think I’ve had a miscarriage, but I’m not sure, as my periods have always been very heavy, with lots of chunky bits and huge amounts of pain every month from age 14 to 55.

I’ve been raped but did not get pregnant.

I’ve never had an abortion.

I’ve never had to decide if I wanted an abortion.

More than half the women I know have told me they’ve had abortions. There are likely many who have never told me they’ve had abortions.

In high school in the seventies in Canada, I knew several teen girls who had abortions. Safe abortions provided by doctors in the hospital. They went on to finish high school and have good lives.

My number one question is, WHY DOES ANYONE CARE IF SOMEONE HAS AN ABORTION?

WHY?

It’s no one’s business!

How does it affect YOUR life? It doesn’t.

I can’t believe that in 2023, we are fighting for women’s rights as if it’s the fifties all over again. Why are we going backwards? Don’t we have more important business to care for than sticking our noses into other people’s business?

Why do you care if a teenager you’ve never met has an abortion?

How does it affect YOUR LIFE if a woman you’ve never met has an abortion?

We can’t take care of the people who are already here. Why do you want to bring more unwanted people into this world?

Have you not gone downtown lately and seen all the homeless people on the streets? Why aren’t you out there helping THEM instead of standing around with your ridiculous signs harassing women you don’t even know?

If you care so much about other people, why haven’t you adopted some of those unwanted babies, children and teens in the orphanages? Why doesn’t every cent you make go towards funding Planned Parenthood and birth control and sex education?

We are having massive inflation, job insecurity, we can barely buy groceries right now, most people will never be able to afford a home, yet you want to force women to birth children they can’t afford and don’t want?

What the hell is wrong with you?

If anything, you should want women to have abortions so that you won’t have to pay even more in taxes to support all the abused, homeless, and addicted people that will be born or created through forced birthing.

This whole abortion debate is such nonsense.

WOMEN WAKE UP. It’s just (some) men trying to control us. And those women who stand by their men to control other women are disgusting traitors.

Men are angry that we go to work, that we want equal rights, that we want to decide when to have children, and the only control they have over us is to keep us barefoot and pregnant. And in some social circles, perform female genital mutilation. Oh, yes, it’s women who perform FGM on their daughters and nieces and granddaughters. What the hell is wrong with you? Why do you want your children to suffer as you did? When will you get the strength to break free of patriarchy?

Oh, sure, some point to “religious reasons” why women shouldn’t have abortions. Really? Religions were created by men to suppress women, men, and children so that only certain people have power and knowledge. Religion has nothing to do with spirituality. It’s just control. And ancient patriarchal religions definitely have no regard for women’s rights and abortion rights in 2023.

All those fancy religious books you referenced were written by human men long ago. No space fairy sat down and wrote a book for you to live your life by. These books were written to suppress others, the same way there is colonialism, governments, the Spanish Inquisition, and witch trials. All man-created to give power to a few and for many to suffer.

You want the right to shoot to kill other people with your precious guns, yet you want women to be forced to birth babies they don’t want and can’t afford as if they’re cattle. That doesn’t even make sense.

Women, you must stand up and fight for your rights. You must vote. You must run for office. You must take a stand. You must flood the streets every single day and scream for your rights. Every Day! You must help other women who aren’t as strong as you to take a stand. Educate the ignorant. You must fight for the right to have control over your own body.

And I don’t want to hear from a bunch of anti-vaxxers how they want control over their bodies. It’s not the same argument. Vaccines were invented by scientists through trial and error to protect us from dread diseases. In fact, many diseases were wiped out because, for a while, most people got vaccines. Now those diseases such as polio are returning because ignorant anti-vaxxers think they know more than scientists who have been studying dread diseases for decades, if not centuries. At any rate, spreading disease AFFECTS US ALL. Having an abortion affects no one but the woman who has it and her partner if he knows about it. I’ve never heard of anyone in Canada or the US who was held down and given vaccines against their will. You’ve always had a choice; you just don’t like some of the consequences of your choice.

I don’t know how this abortion backslide has happened. It’s obviously a diversion, so we won’t notice other huge problems going on in the world. Women, don’t let these people squash you down. As I stated at the beginning of this piece, I have zero dogs in this fight. Yet, I’ve marched tons of times for women’s rights and the right to have abortions. And I will continue to march.

When I first moved to Toronto, the Morgentaler clinic was bombed. I couldn’t believe it. I was from a sheltered London, Ontario life (where people could quietly have abortions and no one knew unless someone told) and didn’t know that people would kill other people because they didn’t want them to have abortions. How does that even make sense?

Every woman I know who has had an abortion did not have it lightly. It was never a cavalier experience. It was always horrible and gut-wrenching, and I’m sure most have never “got over it.” Most of the time, there was an abortion because there was something medically wrong, either with the fetus or the mom. Other times, it was the timing that was wrong. The mom was 15. Or even a married mom who could barely afford the children she already had. And who cares? It’s none of your business why a woman has an abortion. It does NOT affect your life at all.

If men don’t want women to have abortions, then use birth control. Men who don’t want women to have their own babies aborted should have had discussions before having sex. Instead of assuming a woman will have your baby should she get pregnant, maybe you should have a conversation about these things before going to bed. Make sure you share the same beliefs.

Birth control is not 100 percent. It never has been. Even people with vasectomies and tubal ligations can have a child. And that is why access to safe abortion is a basic human right.

Abortion is serious, painful emotionally and physically, and no one that I’ve ever met or talked to about it has ever used abortion as “birth control” consciously. EVER. And I’ve been around a long time, and in my various jobs, I’ve talked to thousands of women about such things.

So, give your head a shake before you go running around with your signs at the clinics to make a woman’s traumatic decision even more traumatic. How are YOU helping the situation? Screaming at women who are already at the lowest points in their lives makes YOU feel better? Are you a sociopath?

I remember going to the gynecologist in my forties because I had uncontrollable and painful periods. I had to walk through anti-abortion picket signs. It was the weirdest thing ever. Did those old men (they were all old men) even know where they were? To this day, I don’t believe abortions are done in that building; it was just a four-story doctor clinic building, including eye doctors. So, what was the point of that? They just wanted to harass women because it made them feel powerful.

What people do with their own bodies doesn’t affect you at all. Gay people having sex with each other doesn’t affect you. Trans people having sex reassignment surgeries doesn’t affect you. None of these activities involving strangers you don’t even know affect you.

These abortion laws are about control, as we know. They are not about saving lives, or there would be no homeless people, no orphanages, no abuse, no shelters, because human beings would be helping each other as much as possible.

Let’s take care of the people who are already here and stay out of strangers’ bedrooms.

Stop harassing strangers with your antiquated power trips. Fight for something worth fighting for, such as stopping poverty and homelessness.

Feel free to chime in with your comments!